Dutchman Van der Meyde details the clash in his new book, which is being serialised in The Sun:
"Moyes was sick to the stomach that he had to pay me £30,000 a week yet in two years I didn't even play 20 matches. He said he had a club for me.
"But my daughter was still in hospital and Ipswich was a five-hour drive. Moyes never said more than 10 words to me ever again. He did everything to try to break me.
"For a home game with Middlesbrough I spent 90 minutes on the bench and was p***ed off. At Everton, players who don't play have a training session at the end of the game. But I didn't go on the pitch.
"Moyes said: 'What are you doing?' I said: 'I'm going home.' Moyes replied: 'No, you have to do your training.'
"I said: 'You can stick it.' Moyes grabbed me by the throat and screamed: 'You are going to do your training.'
"I said: 'Go on hit me, hit me!' Steam was coming out of Moyes' ears but he let me go and two minutes later he gave me his hand and apologised."