"I said to him at an awards evening once that he was copying us!" revealed Wilder. "But he's a world-class manager, just look at his record.
"One thing you see is that he has an incredible passion to help his team and club. Everybody goes about it a different way, but his record speaks for itself."
Wilder, like everyone, suspected Conte may not have been in the dugout at the Riverside Stadium following his post-match comments at Burnley last week.
But the Boro manager has defended his opposite number, who had called his own future into question after the 1-0 defeat at Turf Moor.
"He speaks his mind and from the heart. He finds it difficult to not be himself, which is how people want to see it," he added.
"I love watching his teams play and his connection with his players and enthusiasm. When they went to Man City and got that late win, you saw his reaction, he is here to win. He is what he is. It's up to other people to deal with that."
Meanwhile, Wilder says he should not have to rally his players for the fifth-round tie despite their demoralising 3-2 defeat at Barnsley on Saturday.
"I'm not an entertainer, I'm not a comedian. I don't have to sing a song to them to get the mood up!" he said. "If you can't get motivated for Spurs at home in the FA Cup, then go and do something else."