The Cottagers midfielder will miss the rest of the season through suspension following a second successive sending-off.
Jol has revealed he has held talks with the 30-year-old in a bid to keep him on the pitch in the future.
“It's a bit of his style, but if the team suffers then there is a problem,” said the Dutchman.
“I know players want to win the ball, but there is a different way of doing it to this.
“Hopefully it won’t happen in the future.”