Now on loan to Real Madrid, the forward feels while his old club are "not far off" sweeping all before them, Wenger would do well to take a leaf out of Jose Mourinho's book when it comes to player motivation.
"He [Mourinho] is the best, then Arsene Wenger. He prepares his players sometimes like you are going to war," Adebayor told BBC Sport's Football Focus.
"He knows how to motivate you. He knows how to give you everything it takes to win it.
"Even if it means laying down my life to win this cup, I will do it, because I want to win it so much. That is the difference."
Adebayor also believes his old club need better focus to make the required step to turn undoubted potential into overdue trophies.
"Arsenal is a fantastic club, all the players are young, but at the end of the day you have to be harsh and be aggressive," he said.
"You have to instill a mentality where you think you have to win, win, win every day. That's the difference with Arsenal.
"He has to tell them: 'you have done good, but you have to do better. You have to fight more, you have to run more and fight for every ball.' That is what will win Arsenal titles. They are not far off."