David Moyes wants the FA to show more respect towards players and clubs if they are demanding better standards from within the game.
The Everton manager has found himself at odds with officialdom in recent seasons over various issues, and has viewed the treatment of fellow clubs by the ruling body this term with disappointment.
Moyes believes the issue of greater respect in the game is a two-way street.
He said: "It is important that we do all respect referees. But I have said many times that I see many incidents when I do not feel the FA have respect for clubs and the situations that arise.
"Now they seem to want us to stand up and help them, well, it goes both ways.
"Clubs have made decisions (to appeal red cards) and been confronted with being told they are frivolous. Almost being told, 'sorry, we do not respect you so don't bother coming to us and asking'.
"There are many times we have asked for decisions, and me personally, for the referee to maybe turn around and say he has got something wrong and made a mistake. But they won't do that.
"So it seems it is okay to blame the players, while we have been asking as coaches and managers for things to improve. We know they want us to give them respect, well they have to give us respect back also."
He added: "It seems that Mike Riley was trying to persuade Ashley Cole to turn around and was not reacting. In that case you have to praise the referee because he probably saved Cole from getting into a situation that could escalate."