The Bolton and Tottenham managers are both under pressure.
But Trotters chief Lee has to think of himself and insisted: "It's us against them and we need the points.
"We'll be looking to make sure we get the win. I've got great respect for Martin Jol and what he's doing at Tottenham.
"He's a very personable, nice man and a football person.
"Win lose or draw, he's always there to share a comment and a glass of wine.
"But for those 90 minutes we will be against each other."